I've found out that it's quite hard to meet people when you're by yourself. Yesterday I went to the Uni Caf and sat there... I guess pretending I was waiting to meet someone. Little did everyone know, I had no plans. The caf is set up a bit like a highschool caf, with those long tables... perfect opportunity for awkward situations. Sometimes people come and sit next to you... with their friends... but they're still technically not with you... so you're just kind of a creepy stalker... although you were technically there first. That's when you pull out your cell phone and people think you're important and busy, when really you're just playing games, entering random things into your calender that you'll never look at again, or texting your dad. Granted I haven't really tried yet to meet anyone. I guess I'm waiting for orientation week and school to start. The only way it's easy to meet people when you're by yourself is if you're in a setting where everyone is by themselves.. playing an ice breaker or something.
My friend told me to go to the bar and grab a drink to kill my Friday night... and try to meet people. Okay, now that's a hit or miss situation. I would have to pretend that I was meeting someone... and then be "stood up". I think I'll just wait. The more I think about it, when I do go out with friends to a club or something... I end up kind of doing my own thing anyways. But I do not wait outside in a line by myself. I think anyone would have to be a few coronas deep to do that...
If anything, I'm more desperate for contact. I went to the shopping centre today and have never been more excited to talk to the cashier in the store, anyone really. I even stopped to hear all of the people marketing for charities, trying to sign me up for credit cards and so on. I talked to the guy in the grocery store for a few minutes... I paid 8 dollars in change... to slow down the process and increase my contact. People must just think I'm a very eager Canadian girl.. or desperate. I'd rather stick with eager.
I'm really getting to know myself, I guess. I set a new record at the gym - 3 hours. Who goes to the gym for 3 hours? People who know that they have nothing to do when they get home.... "Loners" must be in excellent shape. I did my usual bike, trainer, treadmill, abs routine.... twice.
What's my plan for tomorrow? Who knows. I have only two more full days to kill until I'm back to human contact! I can't wait for my roomies to come home!
hey man,
ReplyDeleteif its any consolation, ...you're not alone in being alone first week of exchange!!
I remember siting in restaurants by myself and hearing a group of people at another table speaking english and being like WOW i understand you...can you please be my friend!...but its completely awkward to just jump into their convo, so I stayed sitting at my table alone. I went as far as having tapas by myself one time cause i wanted to see how it works in spain...luckily the waitress was very nice and didn't give me a look or anything. haha
Anyways! It gets much better! I have some friends now :)
After your orientation you'll be golden!
xoxo johanna
ps. if i sat beside you at a cafeteria table I would totally strike up a conversation!!